She just got married, how is she already pregnant? And her ... only took 2 months. And oh, her ... it only took her a year. Why is it taking me years to conceive?
Maybe you have said same of these same things. Comparison, it's a deadly thing. It destroys your joy. It causes you to be bitter. It takes away your ability to be happy for others. It brings you down in a time you need to be brought to THE one.
So let's talk about what the Word says about it.
“Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important. Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct. Those who are taught the word of God should provide for their teachers, sharing all good things with them. Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful nature will harvest decay and death from that sinful nature. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit. So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone—especially to those in the family of faith.“
– Galations 6:1-10 NLT
There's several things we can get from this passage. Let's look at some of this.
Share each other's burdens.
He shares the importance in sharing each other's burdens. When you have a village around you that you can share your pain and sorrow with, it makes life so much easier. It causes you to look less at others and to look at those people that are sharing with you. It's healing for your soul.</li>
Pay attention to yourself and don't compare yourself to others.
You know what, you have enough challenges of your own, why would you look at others and compare yourself to them? You know what else? You don't know what struggles she has had. Her struggles are not yours, and yours are not hers. And you know what, your struggles and her struggles all are a part of your individual story. So by comparing yourself to her you're trying to take on her story that was not meant for you. Your story was meant for you. He says you will reap what you sow. If you reap comparison you will sow bitterness, sorrow and a lack of joy.The notes in my Life Application Study Bible says this about that passage:
When you do your very best, you feel good about the results. There is no need to compare yourself with others. People make comparisons for many reasons. Some point out others flaw in order to feel better about themselves. Others simply want reassurance that they are doing well. When you are tempted to compare, look at Jesus Christ. His example will inspire you to do your very best, and his loving acceptance will comfort you when you fall short of your expectations.
He will move in the right time and we will be blessed.
We are to wait and trust. We are to not lose hope. You know why? Because our blessing will come. He will provide. He will comfort. He will give peace. And He will never leave.His time is not our time. And our timing may be related to I want this thing now, but not even realizing there's a specific time for our child to be born to accomplish what has been purposed for their life. Ecclesiastes says a time to be born and a time to die.
So what do we do while we wait for the right time, we pray, believe, hope, trust in Him with full confidence that He will do what He promised.
Do you see what the comparison trap does to you? It steals your village, your joy, your here and now, your hope. It doesn't do anything good. It's time to believe in the One and look to the One who created us because He saw that we were a part of His perfect plan. His perfect plan. Did you catch that? Our story is not a mistake – and we can wait on Him expectantly.
In the morning, Lord, you hear my voice, in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly.
– Psalm 5:3 NIV
Wait for the Lord, be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.
–Psalm 27:14 NIV
Do you have your village? Do you have a way to push away the trap of comparison? Are you believing that in due time your blessing and time will come?