Navigating the Holidays Part 6, 7 and a Bonus Tip
The holidays are approaching, in fact one of them just passed. And for many people and for many reasons, the holidays are not an easy part of the year. Some of us dread this time of year. We'd like to stay in bed and pretend it doesn't exist. Does that sound familiar?
That's okay. But since most of us can't pretend the holidays don't exist, what about we figure out some ways to get through the holidays? I will take 7 posts to dive into different ways to navigate the holidays. Join in with me and even chime in.
Did you miss part 1? Click here to read the first post in this series.
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Part 6: Stay Off Social Media, if Necessary
Social Media – it is an especially 'hard in your face way' to find out things that aren't fun: Pregnancy Announcements, Births, Mother's Day Celebrations, Christmas Celebrations, Kids Going Back to School, and the list goes on and on.
I don't know about you, but for me on Mother's Day I intentionally stay off social media. I do that because I know that it's a trigger for me. It will send me into despair, thinking how unfair it is that I'm still not a mother.
A few years ago, I was really struggling with all the pregnancy announcements, like it bringing on the tears and sending me into depression. So that particular year, I purposefully stayed off social meda for I believe it was 3 months. It did wonders for my sanity.
Maybe you might need to do that the rest of this week. Stay off social media so it won't send you into a tailspin.
And then don't go back looking at what you missed when you come back. Doing this may just help you enjoy this week with your family more. And it will allow you to focus on the birth of our Savior, as well.
Part 7: Check in With Your Accountability When Problems Arise
Sometimes when things around the holidays really upset us we need to take that thing to our accountability or close friend that understand what this time of year does to us.
Why should we do this? So we're not going into a tailspin alone, so that they can comfort us, and so that they can keep us from doing something we will regret later.
Did you find out someones pregnant and it upset you? Tell your accountability.
Did someone ask you a "are you having kids yet" question? Tell your accountability.
Was being around a bunch of kids hard for you? Tell your accountability.
Did you just lose a baby via a miscarriage for stillbirth and now you have to be around a pregnant family member? Tell your accountability.
The moral of the story is you have to tell someone.
Don't sit in your pain alone. Don't allow these things to send you into depression. Tell someone who knows and someone who understands. You may still hurt a little, but just talking about it with someone will help ease some of the pain.
Bonus Tip: Be Prayed Up
As you enter some of the last Christmas announcements and last Christmas gatherings, make sure you're praying as you enter these situations. Let God hear your heart and protect you as you go into these moments. Let Him guide you. Don't fret, pray about it.
Oh, and if something regrettable happens at one of these events, pray about it before you talk about it. Meaning go to God first. Let Him comfort you, then after you've received some comfort you can talk to your accountability or friend.
Through prayer, God has power that no one else has. It can move mountains, it can heal hearts and it can guide you into peace.
About 7 months ago, I found out that my sister was pregnant. So I picked up my phone, and from a few clicks on social media I saw the Scripture:
“God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
– Psalm 34:18 NIV
Immediately I started to pray and ask for God's comfort. I felt so much better. I could feel His peace and comfort wash over me.
Allow God to do the same thing for you.